I used to want material things from my family for the holidays. Now that my kids are teenagers, I just want to spend time with them.

When my kids were younger, I asked for material gifts as Christmas presents. Now that they're teens, I ask for time spent together instead of gifts. I've realized I don't need more stuff, I need to soak up my last years with kids living in my home. When I was pregnant with my first baby, I'd see moms wearing jewelry with their kids' initials or birthstones and dream of the day I'd get my own. When my kids were in preschool, I'd make a holiday wish list of things I thought would help me up my mom game, like a stand mixer or a fancy sewing machine. My elementary-aged kids may have wanted the latest video game or baby doll, but I asked for spa gift certificates and expensive new boots. My husband and I were younger then; our income was smaller than it is today. As a new mom, the holidays were a time to ask the people I had taken care of all year long for items I had wanted, but put off buying due to budgeting for necessities like diapers or groceries. Now that my kids are teenagers, I ask for time spent together instead of material gifts However, as my kids, now 15 and 17, have gotten older, material gifts aren't what I want for Christmas. In recent years, I've asked my now-teenagers for the gift of time spent together rather than trendy earrings or pricey perfume. Yes, in my mid-40s with a higher income, I buy some of these things for myself throughout the year anyway, but also, the older I get, the less things matter. My husband and I try to give them experiences instead of presents , and that's also my request for my own holiday gifts. The idea hit me a few years ago while catching up with a friend who has two adult children. "I told them this year I didn't want them to buy me anything," she said. "Instead, I asked them each to plan an activity that we could do together." One of her sons had bought tickets for himself and his mom to take a cooking class together. The other had given her gift cards to her favorite restaurant and their local movie theater, promising to take her on a dinner-and-a-movie date, just the two of them. It sounded like a genius idea to me, especially since I was beginning to feel like I saw less of my kids due to their part-time jobs , school schedules, and social commitments. As a mom, time together, no matter how long, is my favorite holiday gift In our family, we start celebrating Christmas sometime in November, so I now tell my kids that taking a holiday trip together or attending a holiday event in our town are "part of my Christmas gift." Spending time with them and making memories together fills my heart with holiday joy all season long, and I think they enjoy it, too, even when they act...

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